Saturday, May 29, 2010
Life and regrets...the sins of our fathers
5:45 am edt
being here and reading gentle friends. As all weeks continue, not just for me but for most it seems to be one of bipolarity.
There are highs and there are lows. What we chose to do with those is the interesting parts. There in my perspective is two
ways that we can deal with each component. That it is our due and the level of entitled outcomes and narcissistic, or those
that have the ability to piss away the beauty of a win with self defeating behaviours that are not centered in the moment.
On the loss side of the house there are those that will lament and moan and whine or those that will be centered in the moment
and see an opportunity.
It is my friends possible to snatch victory from the jaws of defeat and snatch defeat from the jaws of
victory. It is an awareness that the battle is never done and that the must hold our taxonomies and true to ourselves as we
move forward and evolve.
A time to step back and reflect on the gifts and wins and challenges that come up each and every minute.
We chose to ascribe what is important to each object and event. That level of importance of course will be markedly different
based on what is in the eye of the beholder and its level of closeness to a person. That level of importance I believe must
be respected as we are all created differently. There should be no regrets and the decisions that I make in the here and now
are mine and the wins I will share, the responsibility of failure I will a assume. But I know even with a fail, there will
be someone there to help me through it.
To close, this has come across my path in the past and a couple times I have read it
in the past 48hrs:
"Life is too short to wake up with regrets. Love the people who treat you right. forget about the ones who don't. Believe
everything happens for a reason. if you get a second chance grab it with both hands. If it changes your life let it. Nobody
said life would be easy. They just promised it would be worth it !"
Be yourself, often.
--- Joel Lamoure May 2010
Saturday, May 22, 2010
Whenever I climb I am followed by a dog called Ego
9:52 am edt
Whenever I climb I am
followed by a dog called 'Ego'. F Nietzsche (1844-1900)
An interesting quote that I thought would lead and commence this weekly
blog discussion. A summary of the week where the commonplace, intriguing and yes, boring items all come into one place with
1 common thread. However, no matter what attribute is attributed to the event, they all have a thread in the tapestry of our
days of our lives.
Our egos and superegos do indeed follow us and colour what we do. A dog may be a comfort or may be a beast. But it
is by in large a loyal creature. Egos are inherently VERY loyal creatures that are inlock-step with us and only a strong self-awareness
or a major status change (eg health) can diminish the dog. An ego is something that infiltrates every aspect of us and the
activities that we do. It is basically all about me. I actually challenge that as we climb in whatever a societal driven culture
perceives as climbing (ie: more successful) that our accompanying dog gets bigger too. One becomes more full of themselves
and there is real concern that they remain honest to themselves and to the roots of their being and the taxonomies that brought
them to where they are.
Success in not merely a change in position but often in Western cultures can be defined as a collection of possessions
or wealth. That too drives the ego and is really a false god up which we strive. We must be and have the best and that is
where the dog of ego becomes this bull mastiff that drags US along and inherently becomes Ego the Dog. This is where "Its
All About Me" which leads to personality changes, Cluster B behaviours such as narcissism, personal conflicts and potentially
ultimately substance abuse disorders and other related conditions. Look at the tabloids of the stars if you want any example
for validity. When one thinks only how something that happens will ultimately reflect on them and their position, status,
wealth or possessions instead of a more universal role, one might wonder if the taxonomies are fully in place and solid.
What is success to you? What price
are you willing to pay? Quite interestingly I have observed that the more humble, and more likely an individual to help another
and put their belief system first will tend to reap the rewards and success. However success may have to be redefined as internal
contentment and as Eckhart Tolle comments, the "pain-body" is as such diminished. Pain is psychological and physical
which I see every day and there is a very strong interface between the two. Doesnt a premise of less pain sound wonderful?
Be prepared to define success
and what is your climb? At what cost does this success come and are you prepared to pay it? Are you self-centered succeeding
and climbing or helping others along the way? Do people lose when you win? Is your dog pulling You along?
The answer is to know yourself,
practice your taxonomies and belief systems and be yourself, often.
--- Joel Lamoure May 2010
Saturday, May 15, 2010
The Bank of You. Part 3. Deposits and ROI
11:04 am edt
I've decided to continue down this vein on The Bank of You and where we put our money and emotional strengths
and gift and rewards and try to tie this into the week at hand and the next couple of weeks as they are starting to appear
from the mist. Although, I must admit that its an educated (or fool's) guess to know where the days may come and go and what
may happen. I know all to well that these change change quite literally in a heartbeat. But we have to be aware of our situation
and our taxonomy and daily do our "Miracle of the Hudson" and be able to land our planes using mental conditioning.
what do you value and where do we invest our time, loves, energies and primary focus. I myself have been very guilty of investing
80% of my resources on the 20% of things that actually matter. When it comes to health and life and the feeling of positive..
you need to feel the moment and the mindfulness and be sucked into the moment of NOW. Mindfulness. When someone or yourself
is sick and unable to function, that ripples out in concentric circles and basically if its YOUR health, takes you off the
playing field. No matter what you have done and your successes will resurrect your health. But being a person who lived the
experiences and felt them and achieves their dreams and taxonomy and felt mindfulness, even at times of sickness has an ability
to rebound. Sickness may be a sign and signal that we are investing a little too heavy or in the wrong avenues. It may be
time to invest efforts in a different area or different venue.
Again my friends, like everyone else I have
been there and invested too much, got too small of a return on investment or balanced in stocks and hedged where lost a great
deal of emotional capital. At that point, as alluded to above one has the option to whine, moan, lament and complain about
their lot. OR they can use the mindfulness and like the Phoenix move ahead and look fearlessly at the good and the bad. Keep
the good ROI investments and reinvest in the poorer performing stocks, that we may have foolishly bought or invested in. That
is courage and ultimately ends up with a better ROI producing profile, with the sickness either physical or psychiatric being
the time to cut the losses.
A fearless moral and psychological and activity inventory is part of the Fourth
Step. It requires honesty, integrity, effort, fortitude with mindfulness and to know yourself and be yourself, often.
--- Joel Lamoure May 2010
Saturday, May 8, 2010
Welcome to... The Bank of You
4:20 pm edt
Here we are again at the Bank of You. So many things that we can write on this topic. Deposits, withdrawals,
account balances, people, computerization, structure of the bank, alarms, location and do very much more. This represents
the body and the us in the here and now. There is past and there is present of the bank, but there is a beginning and an end.
We want to ensure that you look after you in a way that doesnt go into overdraft and that the credit cards and mortgages available
dont put you so far in debt that you suffer. There are day to day service charges, sure. Its a cost of doing business and
living after all. But if we are to address this in a humanistic perspective
my friends, thats what we do on a daily basis.
The lifestyles that we live and the actions that we do
draw down on our account and quite often the people I see are in the equivalent of a mental bankruptcy. Not mental health
patients, but people all around.... Drawing on goodwill and loans and favours that they are unable and unwilling to pay back.
They cant pay back as they are morally and spiritually bereft, full of dis-ease. Emotional deadbeats with alot of dis-ease.
There are the high flyer penny stocks where you can make a mountain and lose your shirt in the Bank of you. Avoid them. The
risk:benefit ratio is too high. Get rich schemes never work in life, love or money. Worst case is they take you on the plunge
with them in their plunge into narcissism and negative taxonomies!
However, there are the safe refuges
and the blue chip stocks that we can take refuge in. The solid performers that each year add more performance overall to the
general market. These are the people that seem at ease with themselves.
What are you in life and what is
your stock? What do you contribute to the pros and cons and balance sheet? Would you invest in you? If the answer is no, there
is some serious reflection and points to be addressed. As a corporation, with your body being the structure... what are your
spending habits? This ties into karmic energies and the giving of gifts and awareness of the time and motions that you do
contributing to your net worth at the end.
What is your balance sheet and the Ins and Outs? Might be time
to invest a little more wisely.. a close friend, a kind smile, a helping hand, a kind word. Those help the balance sheet with
a random act of kindness. And that its ok and there may be investments that you make in others that dont pan out or life costs
too much and we have to take some dividends from our friends.... thats ok. But always being Queen B and making others do your
work and expecting everything? Negative Life balance sheet...not going to invest. Feel lonely with meaning? Look in the mirror
and then fearlessly take the actions to become rich in life. Then you can be yourself, often.
--- Joel Lamoure May 2010