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Saturday, September 24, 2011

The Ego on a Diet

Greetings my gentle readers and I just wonder how many will be put off by the title. "Oh no", "Not a theological lecture" and "Whatever happened to people selling their kidneys for ipads?".  I mean really, cant we just have a break and listen to something about somebody famous doing a famous politician while eating a celebrated famous recipe (and watching Abandoned maybe?) Seriously Joel...get a grip and write what people WANT!

I am going to try to pull 3 weeks into one here and my international travels and experiences in Europe with alchemy (cf: Nicholas Flamel and his house from 1407) with my experiences at the hospital, experience teaching in palliative care and also what does it mean to just be yourself, often. I use that catchphrase as my most common, but what does that mean and represent?

You have a 1 in 23 trillion chance of being taken out by a piece of space technology. Yet how many people were absorbed by that chance? How many blogs, technological gurus and air time was dedicated? Allow me to explain bluntly my friends. Because that critical piece of flesh and muscle and blood (read: You) might be taken out of the equation and voted off of Island Earth... together with its always hungry ego. Time for a diet.

Can you believe people get hurt because people do things and actions to try to discredit others that results in a thirs party being hurt? Its called bullying. It is a stat of ego imbalance and these individuals are inherently egomaniacs with an inferiority complex. They are all about them, dont listen to reason and will undercut you in a heartbeat. Been there and seen it. People die... see my blog about Jeremiah from last month. Unacceptable.

"Well Joel, Im not that way and dont bully"... but what is important to you I will reply? Is it ensuring that everything is better, bigger, faster and more shiny? To reinforce that its YOURS, MINE etc? That inherently implies a state of item collection and means if I have it, you dont. Tough luck Buck.

Do you, this person focussed on the all about me give in any measurable way? To give your time and essence and prayers to people you know not? Do maybe you just judge them and end up with a bunch of like minded ego-driven people? Ah... the clique and my best buds. Sorry... No room for egos in friendships. Its like trying to stuff 3 golfballs in a vase full of sand. Aint gunna happen baby.

Ah, the sand and the golfballs. The crow and the pubbles and the vase vs the shorter dish. Remember that parable? I would suggest reading it! How many stones do you have and how high is your water and how deep is the vessel that is you? Dont know? Y'all got a serious kick arse problem then. I canguarantee your insight, self-awareness, charity and spirituality is negligible. You dont give and dont share and just as an FYI, might want to get checked for dehydration, as you are dry and running on empty. I see changes in electrolytes and cardiac abnormaities in next stages here. Prognosis: poor.

Put the ego on a diet and take in what you need and whatever you get, try giving some of it away again. That is part of the key to abundance. The second parameter here is watch WHAT you take in and make it count. You would on a real diet and this one means much more. People may REALLy start to listen and ask of you and listen and reciprocate. To earn that though involves much mindfulness of what you taken in and your body and mind, which I have learned from a couple very close friends and then 2 weeks of observations into both beautific behaviours and spiteful soliloqies and vehement victimization.  Somewhere in there I had a birthday and say what abundance looks like. People I have never ever met taking their time, effort and resources to give. Was wonderful to witness and reflect upon.

To do those things and help others, must help self. Not in an ego feeding way, but the ego starving on a diet way. That will make you more mindul of the benefits and gifts there are. Peace, patience, silence, humility and serenity. Listen to the still winds and the messages they carry my wonderful friends. If you could be mindful and mesmerized of something that is a 1:23,000,000,000,000 chance (space crap hitting you), then should take the 1:1 chance of mindfulness of your actions, surroundings and Spirit. Only then you can be yourself, often.


--- Joel Lamoure September 2011 


11:36 am edt 

Sunday, September 18, 2011

Mindfulness and karma

Greetings my gentle readers and another week has gone by. This is the beginning of the the third year of this blog and quite intriguingly, life never stops to surprise and provide fodder for commentary. I try to avoid news, celebrities, recipes, food, and other things that the mainstream tends to glorify (oh, and politics) and focus on the mirrors.

The mirrors are a tool that I often use in teaching and clinically to reflect back what I see and actions and behaviours and either reflect back or show the other person the positives and occasionally negatives that are portrayed. You realize of course that we all do this in a deliberate or subconcious way? I believe that mindfulness allows us to express ourselves in a more rich and robust ways.

I rarely shop unless its needed, rarely watch TV and have tried to limit my internet use to work related issues and also communication with friends. Friends as I alluded to a few weeks ago are the cornerstone and the most  honest and accurate reflection that we can get. They are often devoid of filters and devoid of fancy tricks of the light that could sell a refrigerator to an Eskimo. Friends when mindful and truly reflective can teach us alot and I am totally blessed to have a few very close ones. There are also people that are anti-friends and mindfulness will teach us that fact when we apply the mirror.

Mindfulness is not about going with the general group hysteria. Mindfulness as relates to an individual is looking at overt and covert behaviours and actions and appreciating the whole package. Sometone slanders, others fawn and why? What is the root cause and especially the facts that drive an individuals actions? That requires to make ones own evidence informed decision and not the group dynamics. If you havent made an enemy, then you havent expresed yourself. Its just a sorrow that people hurt others and the blood rites and such lead to group hysteria. Ive seen enough of the implications up close and personal overseas and at home to appreciate the beauty in people. A little kindness, understanding and reflection, removal of the root deadly sins such as lust, envy and greed would have saved untold millions across the decades. Dante had it right when they were labelled Deadly.

So how does this all fit into mindfulness and karmic energies, the wheel of samsara? Well my gentle friends and readers... apply the mirror liberally, very liberally when you do or act or think or say something. What is the root cause and believe system behind what you think? If you cant catch it then, catch it before it becomes a negative rooted belief. Aim high my friends and strive for positive belief systems. You DO have the chance and choice always to remove yourself from the situation. If you dont catch it then, for goodness sake if it is negative, do it before it becomes an action. Look around, is the decision being influenced by others? Is this a group lynching? How did that work in Salem or Germany or Cambodia? Not well my friends.

For to think and then believe and to act will drive, I so strongly believe, what transpires next. You are not devoid or exempt from your actions. May not be as earthly present as Nuremburg, but certainly there is atonement and the wheel of samsara turns.  If you doubt, proceed as and at your wishes and peril or benefit... for there is always what I call the Free Will Covennant.

I prefer to focus on the small and subtle. The soft feel of silk and the warmth of the sun, the sweetness of a candy and the expression of love looking into another's eyes.  There is abundance galore in the minutiae of the day and it is incredible. Mindfulness yields positive karmic energies which radiate out and allow you to see, touch, feel and be yourself, often.


--- Joel Lamoure   September 2011 

11:55 am edt 

Sunday, September 11, 2011

Meditative sound of silence

Greetings my gentle readers and the blog this week is dedicated to memorial. A time to think and reflect. A time for peace, patience, silence, humility and serenity. A time of learning.

Go about the day and live it and love it. Feel the auras of the days and people, the gifts of the air and sweetness of friends.

Love, appreciate and listen to the words in the winds my friends. It can be heard with silence.

For it tells and affirms who you are, often.


--- Joel Lamoure September 2011 

11:31 am edt 

Friday, September 2, 2011

What really is important? Seriously?

Greetings my gentle readers for another weekly installment of the Be Yourself, Often Blog. This is the 25th month now with our weekly postings! This week has been one of seeing many angles of humanity and kindness and the polar opposites. A week that leaves one wondering some serious root cause analysis and "why, why, why, why and why?" A week of tears of joy and lernings from the patients have outweighed what we have been able to put forward. A week of seeing light bulbs click on and fascinating discussions with many people. A week of respecting and learning...always learning. A week of meeting new people and learning new facets of others. People have been the cornerstone of this week and the incredible experiences obtained. Renewal of old and planning ahead to new.

Just a reminder to please my friends feel free to share the blog link with others at  as the goal is to create a positive ripple of positivity and humanity and let people read and reflect on the writings and perhaps, just perhaps have the mental fortitude to turn the mirror on themselves.

When we look at the days and the weeks, when we need to look at what we would take away in a crisis, what would that be? If there was a natural or civil disaster? What would you take away? This operates on the premise of your life, so your life, health and well being must be important. Interestingly, not the ego... but this is the root core of survival and id here.... not the ego orsuper-ego. This being we self-identify (and label) as "me" and "I" is purely a collection of memories, stores, or ideas locked away in that incredible brain we have that only ticks along at 2-5% of capacity. Oh neuroplasticity.... but thats a discussion for another week! But we self identify. Remember the Zen statements thats state "A good explanation doesnt explain everything".... and "the finger pointing at the moon is not the moon". Build some neuroplasticity and try to identify who you are... see what I mean?

What else is important? Most will start listing things to save in a crisis. Most things I believe are replacable except living, breathing creatures and the memories in your mind. These are the items thus to treasure and value. People with no GDP, work etc in poverty actually when all are in poverty have 25x less overall mental health disorders. Like the story of the man that lost his cows and despondent. What really is important? The memories, the experiences and how we conduct ourselves. That is the fourth thing. Conduct and the wheels of samsara say much.

To recap... Llife is important, family/friends and our life, memories (past and in process) and conduct. Funny that THESE should identify who we are, not the replaceable things. Maybe we have it wrong? Im positive that we can be more ositive by a healthy done of intelligent concern to others. Big time.

Off to make some new friends, recap with old ones and make some memories while remembering the beauty of what is around me. Relish the sounds and scents and tastes and people and appreciate the goodness in life that exists everyday. Going to live the dream, as I do every week and "livin it, lovin it" to be the motto and catchphrase! Make memories.... as we do and should do each and every minute, day and week... which is so much more easy is grounded in mindfulness. Maybe, just maybe along the way and through the journey, love and be myself, often. 


--- Joel Lamoure  September 2011 

8:36 am edt 

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