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Saturday, July 13, 2013
“Just The Facts Ma’am”
11:18 am edt
my very gentle readers to anther weeks installment of the “Be Yourself, Often” blog found here at: http://www.joelwlamoure.com/id43.html . Ah, that time when we can sit back and appreciate the calm and soothing sense of nature and the chaos theory that abounds
This week we will take a look at one of my favourite movies, which is Dragnet. The modified
one (of course) with Dan Aykroyd as the uber straightlaced, yet prone to impulsive decisions and actions Sgt. Joe Friday and
Tom Hanks as his partner with a list of merits ad citations yet a flagrant disregard for the status quo. The dynamic and yet
unusual duo that end up together through some cosmic mis-association in the LAPD. We all know the movie!
Facts present us well and define us when they are filtered through the chaos of nature vs the amorphic and sometime ambiguous
definitive lines that exist in a set culture, society or where there is a rigid pecking order. Quite intriguingly in my observations->
it seems across over 20 years of practice (11 in psychiatry), 140 journal articles, unknown OTN lectures and discussions,
over 500 lectures, 3 continents and 60,000 hits to this website alone (plus 6000 on Academia.edu: www. http://uwo.academia.edu/JoelLamoure ) that the opposite is true.
Home is where the heart is. Not a place of straight lines, but one
of amorphic curves. Per wit, embracing nature vs the man made entities that have their manipulation and unpredictabilities.
Sometimes, one has to make a set stand in their Belief Systems and in their Creator to see that. These decisions are not easy,
but do reflect how expectations can drive one insane. Totally, truly, clinically insane.
person told me yesterday about anger, uncertainty and stress being like a balloon and how every event is like a puff into
that balloon. And ways to distress and decompress that balloon…especially where there are factors that cause inherent
impacts on the balloon to start with: like abuse, harassment, PTSD, anxiety, loss, grief to name a few. Interesting as I love
writing and using metaphors in my sermons and writings.
“Just The Facts Ma’am”
and knowing all the facts before making hasty decisions helps prevent inflation of the balloon and wiser minds to prevail.
Step back and analyze what are the root causes and cause/effect and epidemiology and taxonomy of the situation and prevent
unneeded provocation and escalation. These are the facts of life to live. Peace, patience, silence, humility and serenity
as I have stated many times (with varying success). I too fail, often.
Touching nature as it is
meant to be in all its glorious, unrefined chaos is an appealing idea. To return to the roots and the Earth is to be yourself,
___ Rev. Dr Joel Lamoure July 2013
Saturday, June 29, 2013
What the Heck Just Happened?
8:58 am edt
Greetings my gentle readers to another week's installment
of the "be yourself, often" blog found at www.joelwlamoure.com. This is the point in time of the week where we are able to sit back and mindfully reflect on the moments that were and the
impact that they have had in our lives.
This is our first blog posting of the past six weeks. Those
of you who follow our radio show "prescribing spiritual hope" on WULC out of Carrabelle, Florida on the Spreaker
network will also have observed we have been off the air for the past two months. http://www.spreaker.com/show/tuesday_prescribing_spiritual_hope I anticipate that not only will the blog be back to its normal weekly posting effective now, and our radio show be on the
air again by mid-July at its usual time of 9 PM Eastern time and think all of our dedicated listeners and readers from around
the world for staying with the network.
The past couple of months have been an exercise in journey
into the deepest recesses and caverns that exist within the mind. A time within the wilderness where over the past 40 days
and 40 nights opportunities have presented themselves repeatedly. Unfortunately, as we know in life, and that we as humans
are not the divine architects of our own plans, most of the “opportunities” have had a negative flavor. However,
the concepts associated with the phrase "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" are all well and alive.
These have been days of a death of dreams and recalibration of determining what is important. A time
to realize that what one thought would be logical, in fact was illogical. There were birthdays forgotten by others, promises
broken, expectations shattered, religious discrimination, hate crimes, decades of planning eradicated, disease and illness.
A breach of confidence by confidents and friendly fire. Bullets that derive from close sources fired under the brave face
of anonymity, send through an unwilling messenger. Sadly hypocrisy and vigilante justice is alive and well.
such, based on what the title states, it leaves one wondering, especially a man of faith wondering why so many good people
have been hurt while the sinful, wicked and evil continue to prosper in their lies and deceit, claiming to be and searching
“enlightenment” themselves. I use the term in quotes as it is ego-centric enlightenment they seek, not Spiritual
Enlightenment. My friends, these are days of learning the highest virtue, which is forgiveness. "Forgive them Father,
for they know not what they do…”
Within forgiveness, which is an easy word to say but
hard action to do lies the resolution of inner turmoil. Resolution of the inner turmoil is not playing it out words and harming
other people. Resolution does not lie by constant complaining, self harm, belittling, telling stories repeating stories, playing
victim, hatred, or any of the other tools that were initially used against us. I believe, that is why true forgiveness takes
longer… Perhaps truly 40 days in the wilderness.
It is about finding again what makes one
happy and appreciating that we have the "free will covenant" and do not have to be the same as those that wrong
us. It is not up to the courts to make a decision of judgment or forgiveness, but the quiet Light of Divination that says
so much. To be able to not focus on stuff, and focus on the Light with clarity and intensity will allow us to be the spiritual
being having a human existence and truly be yourself, often.
~~~ Rev. Dr. Joel Lamoure
Monday, May 20, 2013
(D)Evolution of the Fiber-Optic Class?
5:58 am edt
gentle readers and those that subscribe to this blog at www.joelwlamoure.com and diligently read this that I apologize for being late (again) this week as its been
a time myself (yet again) of stopping
and reflecting and wondering what to write. What is important and what makes the biggest difference at the end of the day.
Today is Victoria Day and tried to figure out how to fit in Canadiana and family/fun/fireworks into the mix but just couldn’t
work it through. I have had though great opportunities to watch and learn from people this week that had no intention up front
of teaching me anything, and from those that did. Actually sometimes those are the most impactful learnings I find.
The past 3 weeks from my
radio show “Prescribing Spiritual HOPE” in a bit of a self-imposed reflective exile I have been able to step back
and reflect on the things that drive life, the people that we meet, the items that we have, the gestures that we make and
the adventures that we have and share. Really at the end of the day what is important and what is not. Assumptions that we
make and how they create the next steps in the running dialogue of the life that is and even more how these subsequently translate
into positives and negatives in ours and others’ lives. I will SO agree that everyone sees things in a different light
and what is important to some are useless pieces of shiat to others. My goal is not to impose or force my will on others,
but to cause us as human beings to think and reflect as well. In keeping with my New Years Resolution (yes, still going :P
), which was to not judge, not jump to decisions and to be careful with the things that were said lest they hurt as words
and comments bite more than one knows. Even more so in this electronic world where we are truly adrift… unknowing of
the 90% of communication, and just how valuable this is.
All of the rate, tone, pitch, expressions, eye contact, muscular expressions etc. Also reflecting
over the past several weeks on why such negative comes to such beautiful people and how in a heartbeat masks are discarded
and inner rage can predominate what was once a relationship of love. Reflections on when there are acts of kindness commenced
that why do people personalize these events and claim there is unfairness and inequity. Complain and shut down the pipeline
of aid instead of trying to network with the pipeline of joy that radiates out even more. Be positive besides positively demoralizing.
I believe this will occur more and more in this electronic world devoid of non-verbal human touch and also as the ability
to rip off that mask, express oneself and have ZERO accountability enhances. We are not acting as tigers in such ways, but
that of jackals.
things happen to good people and very inspired individuals and great opportunities are given to those that may not seem deserving.
I see the opportunities lie here in leveling the playing field. Spirituality is a wonderful way to achieve that objective.
I have enough belief and been a fortunate recipient by my wonderful parents and families who always did the best they could
with what they had at the time in love, life and empowerment that that might actually happen. Reframing our thoughts and knowledge
and being open vs. entitled helps a great deal with that objective.
We are then able and willing (and wanting) to step and aid, even in a small way with my gifts
that I have been given to step up to the plate and aid a hero that is in need. Someone that is having a challenge, a good
person and needing a stabilizing arm. That I believe we can all offer and help them stand up and brush the dirt from the road
off their clothing and watch as they start to progress and shine again. There are sadly very many of them out there. The people
that have been blinded, crippled and or beat by societal demands and dictates. Yet these people deserve and want and need
to practice and live with pride and integrity in the way they know and understand. Without Judgement or assumptions that hinder
and hamper aid. The heroes that give their time and resources to help less fortunate and bolster their potentially fragile
egos and feelings and show them some in the world DO care.
The person that we look to isnt the people at the top of the societal game usually.
As stated by the late Harry Chapin, Rich people are too busy hanging on to their wealth and items and possessions, no matter
how they got them. The poor person is struggling to make ends meet, yet in my experience those that give and help are those
that ARE at a more dis-advantaged state. They give of time, love, caring and experiences.
Maybe, just maybe what really matters at the end of
the day isnt how much money I have, the car I drive, a house on the lake and my symbols and trapping of status. Heck, it didn’t
work too well in Sodom and Gomorrah did it. Ouch. Maybe we are creating that psychopathology again, I don’t know and
will save that for a theological discussion one day. This time the invisible webs that are reinforcing the Towers of Babel
are held up by fiber optic cables and a mask of denial, a false golden calf that we have all strived to worship and achieve
in the sense of the great god of Economics.
Where did we lose our definition of a hero and leader? Where did these individuals go? I had the wonderful opportunity
to volunteer and present at a moving ceremony in the cool wind of a man who gave his life to save 2 others 70 years ago over
Lake Erie. One man and LAC Spooner gave his so others could survive. These stories abound and the reflections I had the privilege
to deliver that esteemed group related to the fact that “Freedom is NOT free” and also the fact from a previous
blog that states we have gone from the “All Seeing I” to the “All SeeKING I”. We have totally lost
our moral compass, or at least gone off course somewhere since the days of Victoria.
What is REALLY important is being true to your belief system and
standing by it 110%, not backbiting others and integrity/consistency. Put that money where your mouth is. At the end of the
day, none of us get out alive in this realm.
So at the end of this exercise...what are MY deliverables? I want the opportunity and joy of a smile, to have helped
another and feel the experiences that exist in my own backyard of life. At the end of the day, that kind word, effort even
in communications that are not face-to-face, smile and experience is what is remembered. To be otherwise is to be dis-connected
with who we are. That creates dis-ease. Personally, I will have Nunavut. I would rather spend my time and energies with those
that can advance that same curve and pay it forward. But to do that, we must know ourselves fearlessly, pay it forward, and
put our currency where our mouth is. To know yourself, you must be yourself, often.
~~~ Rev Dr. Joel Lamoure May 2013
Sunday, May 12, 2013
“Lessons From Two Components of Mothering”
8:17 am edt
Greetings my gentle readers to another week's installment
of the "Be Yourself, Often" blog at www.joelwlamoure.com . Hopefully, this is a point of time in the week where we can sit back and appreciate the privilege of being here in the
sanctity of the moment. For indeed, if we do not believe that each moment in itself is sacred, and I do not believe it is
possible to anybody else will be able to convince us otherwise.
Around the world today is Mother's
Day. No matter who you are if you are on this planet then you have a mother. This is one of the consistent practice of life
that transcend race, color, creed and ideologies. And hopefully, no matter what you see in others, your mother remains and
will be the best and brightest light in your life.
A mother is a very interesting individual for
the fact that they are able to carry us through to birth and then nurture and teach us nurturing is a miracle in itself. If
one wants to reflect on a true Higher Spirit, looking at the miracle of becoming a mother is proof in my mind of a Divine
intervention. In the true concepts of motherhood, there is the delivery after carrying a new life across nine months. During
this time, a woman is a medical miracle in the point that she has two beating hearts, four legs, four arms, four eyes, and
two completely different sets of DNA that coexist within the same body. As stated, that is a medical miracle on so many levels.
To carry this to the next level, this is only one component of motherhood. Even individuals who have
not been a mother in the sense of having given birth to a child are mothers in so many other ways and rights. These mothers
as well we must hold up today on this very special moment. That is because a mother as well [Mommy) gives of herself in perhaps
the most all true mystical and altruistic components.
Of note, men can have mothering traits
in the sense of giving and inspirations but there is the delineation that exists right from Biblical times of man and woman,
which we shall support here.
Historically across time, there is the nurture component that augments
and complements the nature component. These altruistic gifts of time and love are not often appropriately appreciated or captured.
These often are related to moments of teaching and kind thoughts to be able to help leverage an individual, animal , plant
or mineral (all forms of nature) ahead. I believe that true mothering is a combination of an intelligent love and concern
for others when coupled with a strong root belief system in stewardship and respect of how everything interfaces together.
It is accepting without judgement the days of good and bad and using these learnings to leverage to the next day so the one
that is learning (and as well the mother) both benefit from this symbiotic relationship. A gift…the present.
And with this not be an incredible thing to teach? And even more so, an incredible thing to learn. We tend
to call this “Mother Earth” or "Mother Nature” in part because of the stewardship and appreciation
of the fine lines and shadows that cross every living creature on this planet. In fact, some mothers have an appreciation
of how this planet interfaces with the world of metaphysics beyond. To step back to the here and now, perhaps we can learn
from true mothering as we progress through our days. We can learn to have a soft kiss and embrace on everything that we do.
Intriguingly, capital or corporal punishment is rarely effective beyond creation of walls of fear.
we as a human race can learn from the teachers of motherhood [nature and nurture components) who are the leaders in the field,
and who we are celebrating today to practice in a more gentle way. A way not of harsh words or judgment, but the way of gentle
embrace. Perhaps then as a race we would not be so surprised when we ourselves (with no one to blame) make judgments of folly
and see negative outcomes come into our path, wondering why we always get the negative end of the stick and then demand a
recount, a better mark. This is a problem of pathology if the person repeats this over and over (we all know these toxic souls
and mercy to them) and to expect a different outcome is well….insanity coupled with a lamentable lack of insight they
can overcome. For if we are approaching up front without judgment, malice and respect the insights of these higher powers
(like a true mother), then perhaps (likely) our end results will become better and brighter.
can only hope that humankind will consider these ideas because as we are progressing, this is antithetical to true motherhood.
We are experiencing and going through a de facto insanity as a society currently. Expecting everything, giving nothing, anonymously
judging and wrapped in conspiracies and when we get nothing that we had hoped for and then becoming disappointed. This makes
us angry. Who ever told us we were so darn entitled? Not those very wise persons as we define mothering, that
soul who gives and gives to the person she brought life to (metaphysically or physically or spiritually). Motherhood is perfect
awareness and translation of talents to achieve stronger outcomes in their young, always striving for better in mankind. Mothering
is also about forgiving and even when you dont like the person's actions, still loving them. I have been very lucky if I use
these definitions and thanks to my own Mother for these insights. <3
We have the ability to be
as Christ in image but actions sadly detract from the wonderful creatures of light that we are. It is a sad dichotomy because
we sanitize our hands and sanitize our lives and are not able to embrace the fact life has a beautiful balance of dichotomies.
Play and work, light and dark. We can be and do so much more through the kindness given in altruistic ways…mothering.
Perhaps if we were two learn from the true concepts of mothering and stewardship of the nature and nurture
components then we can advance ourselves and ultimately through osmosis impact positively on all. You can truly be yourself,
~~~ Rev. Dr. Joel Lamoure May
2013 (Mothers Day)
Sunday, May 5, 2013
“Freedom is Not Free"
8:25 pm edt
Greetings my gentle readers to another week's installment of the "Be Yourself, Often" blog at www.joelwlamoure.com
. Hopefully, this is a point of time in the week where we can sit back and appreciate the privilege of being here in the sanctity
of the moment. For indeed, if we do not believe that each moment in itself is sacred, and I do not believe it is possible
to anybody else will be able to convince us otherwise. Reflecting on this statement, it comes to show exactly the weight of
the moments of the days before, the decisions of the been made, the beliefs that have been translated into actions that allow
us the opportunity to be exactly where we are. A time indeed of remembrance.
And indeed, where we are is exactly
where we are meant to be. It is by virtue of our beliefs that drive our thoughts, which drive our thought processes,
which trigger neurochemical changes in our brain in order to stimulate bodily transmitters that allow us to translate thought
into action. It is you the gifts and actions of spirituality and karmic energies that will translate our actions into outcomes.
As we stop and think about these conceptualizations, we realize that absolutely everything that we do as a spiritual route
with in it. I do not believe that we are able to have positive outcomes if we only put negatives into the equation. While
this may occur for a short length of time, across the months and years inherently this will catch up with an individual. Unhappy
with your job? Complaining about everything not going your way? Why then, are you surprised when your job is lost, your friends
leave because they have heard this same complaint over and over again, and you are left alone. Sadly, this becomes the self-driven
Going down this theory, in order to achieve freedom, we must be willing to make a stand for what we
believe in. Freedom, as it is well stated, is not free. It is an end result of making a stand for what we believe in, rooted
in thoughts and spirituality, which ultimately define and drive our actions. Freedom is not about merely speaking, but about
being willing to stand with conviction for what you believe in. Ideally, freedom would be interspersed and as human beings
we would be willing and able to understand each other's perceptions and as such could achieve freedom at a larger scale.
do you not think that is possible? Even though we as human beings are different and have different thought processes, it is
possible that some of the thoughts may overlap and be able to enrich in others lives if we were willing to take off blinders.
For wit, to allow the scales to drop from our eyes. However, it is very difficult to be able to be willing to understand,
much less accept, another person's point of view in the face of hostility. In true human nature, and in order to achieve and
strive for freedom, sometimes stand needs to be taken. But what a better world this could be if we were able purely to be
able to understand and appreciate each other's differences and dovetail it into our own.
This is where we see
that we are different. If all individuals were full of love, light, peace and the desire to advance humankind then we would
not have the negative outcomes that we see. Positive outcomes usually appear in the form of the structuring of a cultural
identity, way of life or meaningful representation of Spirit in an earthly form. This is where the dark side of humanity
eclipses the positive radiance that is able [and should] be emanating like a beacon from each and every one of us. From a
scientific, educational, cultural organizational perspective when each and every one of us are at our brightest it advances
a culture and from a heritage conceptualization defines our history. It is most unfortunate that hatred, darkness, warmongering
often denigrates humankind and produces the negative outcomes that we observe.
Our history and our past
is defined by individuals and their root belief systems that have translated across the decades, centuries, and indeed millennium
to bring forth the ideally creature of light that is reading this currently.
How free are you? It is better to
aim for the stars, and be allowed and able to do so, and to miss then to never try. We have that ability to advance ourselves
through this experimentation that we call life. Never trying, or facing repression is like having the wings bound. We never
get the chance to try the fly. And that, my gentle readers is a horrible place to be, meaning that we are missing out on the
gifts and sacrifices of the days and years past, indeed our own efforts. For in this journey of flight we want you to be yourself,
~~~ Rev. Dr. Joel Lamoure May 2013
Saturday, April 27, 2013
You CAN Paint it Black…or White! (Or Fuchsia!!)
2:06 pm edt
Greetings my gentle readers to
another week and another installment of the “Be Yourself, Often” blog at www.joelwlamoure.com . This represents perhaps a checkpoint in the week when we can step back and reflect of the moments and sands of time
that have traversed the hourglass and gave themselves to help us reach the point and state that we are today. And that the
moment and present that is the now can be translated into the dreams of tomorrow.
There are so many potential subjects that can be addressed from a spiritual nature filtering through the concepts and
parameters of H.O.P.E., which we are striving towards. This is a worthy spiritual agenda that advances our holistic
health and ways that we can capture and encapsulate it, outcome driven objectives, personalized perspective and the end goals
and challenges associated with empowerment.
If we agree that we are spiritual beings having a human existence and proceeding through the school of life, with all
of its classes, challenges, dynamics and trials/ tribulations then we can consider each step begets the next. Ther are the
challenges and roadblocks that exist and demonstrate themselves in the course of our life and how we perceive and deal with
these define outcomes. Certainly, there are freak accidents and events that we cannot even begin to conceptualize as to the
why of them occurring. Far too often, bad things happen to good people and where we translate the learnings defines our “mark”
in this particular class.
Do we focus
on the learnings in the moment or dream towards the future? Remain firmly rooted in the past perhaps? There are certainly
pros and cons to all of these and perhaps as opposed to having to pick one, in this class of life perhaps we may be able to
approach it more as a smorgasbord or buffet of life. There are the various courses that we are fully able to mix and mingle
and intersperse with other components. Nothing saying that we cannot take the past learnings and nostalgia of times go by,
be aware of those moments and enjoy a quiet reflective moment and a tranquil smile. Knowing that YOU have been given that
gift to experience such a wonderful thing and that it can persist across the quantum dimension of time… and time past
is equidistantly dead and are unable to touch or change that past. So our filter of perspective should be one of positives,
for want of otherwise living in regrets.
To capture that moment in the smorgasbord is an intense blend of utilization of our 5 senses in the here and now and
encapsulated/imprinted on the psyche in the moment. These imprintations will trigger future memories based on sight, sound,
touch, taste, or smells are the root of the event and stimulate our wits, which senses used to be termed in Shakespeare’s
But perhaps my friend we are even more
than that from a spiritual existence and the senses impart a feeling which we can link and be aware through the gift and inspiration
of cognition. So many other senses then are drilled down such as pain, nociception, kinesthetic sensory input and so much
more. That we are able to balance and assign a “feeling” to an event that files the event in the sensorium in
the filing cabinets of good or bad also will translate through across time.
So then, what we absorb, intuit and feel will become the picture that we will carry around
in our mental wallets forever, and through the premises of HOPE can assign the degree of robustness and richness the picture
will have. Personally, I feel the truest way of remembering an event in true vivid high definition (HD) imprinted in our mental
wallet is to have the event resonate on all senses, embracing it with the gifts and talents and being that we are. My father
used to call it being “in country”, which means that we fully immerse ourselves in the surrounding environment
and learn by being part of it. That is a wonderful way to collect facts and understand the why of the event as opposed of
standing by passively and casting stones and Judgement.
Moments that are very dichotomous in nature as well tend to be filmed in the very best HD film as well. These moments
can be easily created by the observer and often creates a smile and pleasurable associations if they are planned to be. They
are the adult at play, Light within a period of dark, Water element touching earth and a kind smile on a gloomy day. Captured
in fact by the Rolling Stones on their album “Aftermath” and the song “Paint it Black”. We can
be light even in dark.
That is the root of spiritual living
is to be the beacon of light and provide a positive lesson to others in the moments of darkness. To help others in an altruistic
way see and be the positive side of the dichotomy. There is a choice and that is to be the negative…if you wish. But
by seeing the light and positives, then we can help others see it and then me and you can be yourself, often.
~~~~ Rev. Dr. Joel Lamoure
Sunday, April 21, 2013
Yea Though I Walk Through The Valley of the Shadow of Death
…I Fear NO Evil (Psalm 23).
6:32 pm edt
Greetings my gentle readers to another week's installment of the "Be Yourself,
Often" blog at www.joelwlamoure.com . This is the time where we can sit back with our favorite pieces of reflective company and step back from the
chaos of the week that was. Too often, we do not
take the appropriate steps and moments of peacefulness and tranquility
and rush through each thing in order to get to the next. Turn off the television sets and reflect on the wonder
and beauty of the moment. There is so much beauty,and so sad that evil sells… and we do NOT have to buy.
So, here we go my fearless friends. Look
at where you are in the here and now. Value and look at family, friends, health,
where you live, what you have, what you get and what you give. That fearless Fourth
Step Moral Inventory.. without all the naughty and nice attached to it. Even if
there are downs, that’s a sign you are alive and then you have the ability
to make choices and decisions and look and work with the Fates to write the next
set of chapters in your book. If there are up then I can guarantee that complacency,
greed, selfishness are choices that can and will push you down. This is the "Story of a Life" which is also
the name of a song sung by the late Harry Chapin and released on his last studio
album. "...And for every dream that took me high, There's
been a dream that's passed me by. I know it's so true” Harry Chapin
It IS the story
of your life and the next decade is but another chapter and with the love, insight
and use of your gifts and advancing yourself and others, use of courage, avoiding judging and being gentle to yourself then it will be the best of when we look back. We have the chance to stop and reflect on the choices that we make
and how we live our life. But what a week that was with terrorism, mass murder
and also natural disasters and explosions. The world may seem to be insane and
for sure adds to the challenges that there are. But we have a choice in the story
of a life that we enjoy. We do not have to engage or participate in this type of
behaviours and we can advance our kindness by turning off and engaging in positivity
and not hatred and anger or denial. We can learn through respect and basic intelligent human kindness and
appreciate each other and what we are able to do and care and share. So sad indeed that in the face of all the hatred andtrauma that there are
conspiracy theories and denial of the hurt that just makes the hurt worse. There
appears to be a paucity of kindness and thought processes that consider where we
are in the world, lead to more unanswered questions. What about the facts, finding
of information and not judging? Are we really the right ones to cast the first
stone? Are you?
Galatians 5:18 and 22 states that “But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under
the law. but the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness”.
1 Timothy 1:9 offers that “We also know that the law is made not for the righteous but for lawbreakers and
rebels, the ungodly and sinful, the unholy and irreligious, for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers”
with the reflection in Jeremiah 33:6 states “Nevertheless, I will bring health and
healing to it; I will heal my people and will let them enjoy abundant peace and security.” “Nevertheless, I will bring health and healing to it; I will heal my people and will let them enjoy abundant peace and security.”
Can you believe people get hurt because people
do things and actions to try to discredit others that results in a third party being hurt? Brainwashing, hatred, terrorism
at a small or large scale. Its called bullying. It is a state of ego imbalance and these individuals are inherently egomaniacs
with an inferiority complex. They are all about them, don’t listen to reason and will undercut you in a
Been there and seen it. People die...
Put the ego on a diet and take in what you need and whatever you get,
try giving some of it away again. That is part of the key to abundance. The second parameter here is watching WHAT you
take in and make it count. You would on a real diet and this one means much more. People may REALly start to listen
and ask of you and listen and reciprocate. To earn that though involves much mindfulness of what you taken in and
your body and mind, which I have learned from a couple very close friends and then 2 weeks of observations into both
beatific behaviors and spiteful soliloquies
and vehement victimization. There is evil and kindness, vitriol and love. Light
and dark. Which side and which sells and where does the line get drawn and re-drawn? What are the belief systems you
are will define the results that occur secondary to the behaviours and actions you enact. We are created in God's image...
to be yourself, often. ~~~ Rev. Dr. Joel
Lamoure April 2013
Sunday, April 14, 2013
“All-Seeing I” OR “All-Seeking I”?
4:51 pm edt
Greetings my gentle readers to another week's installment
of the "Be Yourself, Often" blog at www.joelwlamoure.com . This is the time where we can sit back with the silence of our own mind and step back from the milieu of the week that
was. Too often, we do not take the appropriate steps and moments of peacefulness and tranquility and rush through each thing
in order to get to the next. Is really that not insanity?
concepts of hope we appreciate that there are at least four dimensions that we need to explore in order to achieve optimal
hope. The first is holistic health, second is outcome driven objectives, third is the fact that everything we do is personalized
and the final aspect is that of empowerment.
I read once upon a time
(for really, mustn't all stories, fairy tales and blogs start with that line?) that mankind is the creator of the straight
line. Where my friends do straight lines exist in abundance in nature? Certainly at a more molecular level one might agree
in the bonds between atoms, but really what we call a tree, a blade of grass etc. is NOT straight. Non-straight lines hurt
our linear mind unless like a willow, we are willing to bend, adapt, adjust and do so without judgement. What do we strive
for and what our objectives. For we know that Saul wandered until the scales were lifted from his eyes and then was enlightened
in sight, spirit and soul.
Nothing is said about the commercialism
or components of stuff infusing or suffusing him with the insight, but rather a flash of divinity and inspiration. Too often
though that radar dish that is in our mind is shorted out and dulled by the promiscuity and curves of the seductress of life
and stuff. We are lulled into a false fullness and complacency which curbs our enthusiasms and abilities to truly make a difference.
Even worse, it makes it hard to see beyond the “All-Seeing I”. Even worse is that it becomes the “All-Seeking
I” and there is nary a moment from friend or neighbor, friend or learnings but rather stuff, negativity and vitriol.
Too often we try to put the square peg into the round hole and try to make
the darn thing fit and conform. Uh-uh, no way and ain't gunna happen. Cant we realize that we are equipped to aid, listen
and share? To have all seeing and all-seeking but as and with the gifts and presents the world has to offer in the Present?
Really, the miracles that abound?
The only way that we can make this
equation work if we morph the peg to fit, either by accident or design. I have said it before that we are Model T Fords in
a Ferrari society. Per wit, we have been transmogrified to "fit" the society allowance, rules, expectations and
accountabilities. Remember the square peg? Thats got to hurt once you start cutting off the chunks that dont just conform
beautifully (and I use that word in a very deliberate way) to the level of expectation. "Do this, do that, can't you
read the signs" as the Five-Man Electrical Band would state in their song from the period of the age of Aquarius. Why
can individuals not just respect the premises of intelligent concern and kindness for others and practice that? Resonate with
the crystals that they are and feel the beauty and be able to express that inner joy? That would make some of the conformities
more acceptable and shave off a little less of the peg... thus making life more rewarding and fulfilling. What is important,
respecting others, caring, a few true friendships, a soft word and the scents of ambrosia.
These are the things of the amorphic. Sorry people, we are so much more than a job, title, position
and user of oxygen on this earth. We need to go beyond the tangible and look to the special, secret moments and quiet voice
that exists within all of us. To express ourselves as a flower expresses itself in what we do, how we function and how we
dress. To judge these freedoms of expression that do no harm to others is well, narcissistic and egocentric. Sorry... you
are selfish. "Judge not, lest ye be judged". Dog eat dog baby.
it have to be this way? Nope. Does everything have to be rationalized to death? Nope. Does everything have a rational answer?
Nope. And by looking at the irrational and the spur of the moment, the winds of war... the greatest insights, opportunities,
gifts and flames alight. Keep your eye open for those Doors of Fate that arise in the midst of the darkness, not focusing
on the fact your life sucks that you are in a period of darkness and that you DESERVE (darn it) the light and gifts.
You know my friends, you might... just might find a square hole. How? Express yourself with gratitude,
humility and with hope, faith and belief and Be yourself, often.
~~~ Rev. Dr. Joel Lamoure April 2013
Sunday, April 7, 2013
Do you Know your Pathology and Route to Freedom?
10:06 am edt
Greetings my gentle readers to another week's installment
of the "Be Yourself, Often" blog at www.joelwlamoure.com . This is the time where we can sit back with our favorite pieces of company [warm drink, soft pet or other] and step back
from the milieu of the week that was. Too often, we do not take the appropriate steps and moments of peacefulness and tranquility
and rush through each thing in order to get to the next.
Along the concepts of hope we appreciate
that there are at least four dimensions that we need to explore in order to achieve optimal hope. The first is holistic health,
second is outcome driven objectives, third is the fact that everything we do is personalized and the final aspect is that
of empowerment. Bar too often we go through life as if feeling that we are a victim. I have touched on this theme multiple
times through this blog. However, being a victim creates its own sets of psychopathology and ruts that individuals tend to
get comfortable in. Life is perceived as unfair, unjust, and that an individual develops a learned helplessness [in fact almost
a degree of institutionalization to the societal driven mechanisms that overwhelm us) to everything around.
what of the individuals that tend to be the aggressors? What about individuals that are aggressors without even realizing
it, constantly pushing ahead in their own agenda without realizing the impact on others? Too often, we are seeing a polarity
of society where there are victims and there are aggressors. The individuals in the middle are left not knowing which way
to turn and create a degree of un-empowerment, thus turning to one of the two poles. Certainly, we realize there are individuals
that are aggressors and wish to be aggressors. They wish to control and overwhelm by their simple actions, decisions and often
their narcissistic, grandiose delivery. Often, these individuals are egomaniacs with an inferiority complex and hurting others
is the way that they achieve righteousness in the world. Somehow, I think it is even worse when these individuals label themselves
as “inspired and enlightened" individuals. For in retrospect, these individuals are anything but. Now, it may be
secondary to karmic energies and their past experiences, but that does not mean that an individual is not able to change.
We have the ability to help individuals that see themselves as victims, or see themselves as aggressors
achieve a degree of enlightenment about their pathology. In the DSM-4-TR (in psychiatry speak), there are several types of
personality disorders, which are delineated into three separate classes. The first is cluster a, the second is cluster B and
the third is cluster C. Per wit, we label these three categories as "mad", "bad” and "sad".
Really, we are seeing a disparity and conflict between the cluster B and cluster C categories. Cluster B are the individuals
who are antisocial, borderline and narcissistic in presentation and delivery to a point where it becomes pathological. These
individuals as such would see individuals with cluster C as easy "pray" because cluster C individuals are those
who are fearful and needing of love and attention. In the world of psychiatry, we denote these individuals to be dependent
personality disorders or obsessive-compulsive personality disorders.
As such, we see that it would
be very likely that there creates conflicts between Mars and Venus, or cluster B and cluster C respectively. I believe, that
it is made worse when we are not individuals that are in touch with our spirituality, but in touch with our societal driven
objectives. Really, is it possible for an individual to change their stripes? Yes. I believe it is definitely possible through
a combination of prayer, play and healthy living. A high degree of mental fortitude in order to realize exactly where an individual
is and be comfortable with that individual in the mirror is a first place to start. Having the strength and willingness and
insight to realize that there is something wrong will allow an individual to take the expressions of concern from another
individual, rooted in love to be able to realize there is a problem. Love is an intelligent concern for others, and as such
when an individual takes of their time and health and thoughts to be able to express a concern, that is love. True love is
very rare, and unfortunately we do not realize it until it is either gone or damaged. I myself am guilty of this sin.
However, it does not mean that we cannot touch the spiritual side and appreciate really who we are.
That is, that we are spiritual beings having a human existence. The gods are not crazy, and we have been placed on this earth
in order to realize that there is more than what is sold on the 6 o'clock news, or the 14x 30-second commercials, which occur
through the 6 o'clock news. It is information overload.
My gentle readers, look to those people
who truly love you and say the things that are hats you do not want to hear. It is rooted in love and concern and the desire
for you to be a stronger individual. Love is not mean. Love is not hateful. Love does not boast. Love does not make itself
to be better than the other. Love does not use titles. Love is a simple expression of human kindness expressing an intelligent
concern for others, that ultimately if we can touch the simplest things through prayer, play and seeing things through the
lens as if we were a child again, then you may have a chance to be yourself, often.
Dr. Joel Lamoure April 2013
Saturday, March 30, 2013
Emotional-Based Living: All the Rage!
10:01 am edt
Greetings my gentle readers
to another week's installment of the "Be Yourself, Often" blog… that time in the week which hopefully you
look forward to in order to try to filter through and make some sense of the week that was. Even more so, perhaps the impact
and components of YOU in the week filtered through healing and HOPE. Hopefully, you bring with you some questions that are
left un-answered through simply living the week. Not enduring the week, but rather embracing it! For really, are we not students
in this life? Are we not always eager to advance our learnings?
As we discussed last week, the evidence
informed life is one that we have an understanding of our built in thoughts and biases. There is an appreciation of the subtleties
of the moment and the impact that we have in these events having transpired as well as what we subsequently do with these
events moving forward. We now also realize this concept can advance our spiritual karmic battery charges and leverage us even
better for our future through active involvement. Sorry folks, passivity or entitlement will not work here. It is an active
Indeed, it is not about simply living this life but since we are spiritual beings having
a human existence, then it stands as a logical extension of this concept that we will impact future lives as this spirit returns
in whatever form.
That is belief. It is a factor based in hope, faith and belief that as individuals
we have this opportunity to live in this sort of way. However, how many people truly believe that they have this opportunity
in the future. Our individuals truly squandering the moment in life in order to achieve short-term outcomes question per wit,
are our earthly hormones and desires driving us.
An emotional-based life is one where despite all
evidence an individual will progress down a maladaptive pattern of use. In fact, we can go one step further and say it is
a maladaptive pattern of miss use of a normal resource available to us, which is life. We KNOW value and we know what the
artifically ascribed associations mean to us, which are susequently sold in marketing ploys (Platinum card, King-sized bed
etc). SO sad.
I do believe it is possible to become addicted to the excesses of a Western driven
culture. Much I can to an addict, and individual rooted in emotions [including negative emotions such as the demise Asian]
loves the effect of the neurotransmitter dopamine. Dopamine in the brain the keyless acumen's is associated with drive and
pleasure. This is the root cause of addiction. As stated, addiction is basically a maladaptive pattern of use. I mean really,
how is the way some people live their life really any different?
How much in the way of excesses
does a person actually need? Gandhi stated there is enough for everyone on this earth in need, but not in greed. Thus if we
take a look at individuals who are in the top 5% of earnings and can buy whatever they want those 5% of individuals own 90%
of all the stuff.
There is a reason that Dante identified the seven deadly sins, of which one is.
Really, and emotional-based life has a strong degree of interplay between these seven deadly sins. They include, but are not
limited to: last, greed, sloth and gluttony to name a few.
If you want to embrace a emotional taste
life then you sadly may have been sold a false bill of sale. For these emotions have been biased and altered through changes
in brain chemistry. This opens up the concept that there are different stages of emotional-based living. Perhaps, we can integrate
our positive emotions into our evidence-based and evidence informed living.
If we take the converse
of gluttony, then we are looking/ and need to look at the individuals who are and have stripped away the excesses in order
to really understand who they are and the impact of what they do in their lives. These are individuals who are at ease with
the moment through mindfulness, meditation, prayer and positive play. The shackles of consumerism do not bind them.
It is okay to ground, be a kid, not have everything designer, and not have 20 pairs of shoes, 30 skirts
or 40 shirts or 60 pairs of socks. Can we express and share or why do we covet these things? Can we not ground and connect
and love and live life? Perhaps, we can take a look at some of the humility that was identified by Buddha or Jesus Christ.
Individuals who looked to collect members and Disciples who were average individuals and laborers. But mindful people.
Maybe, just maybe we can live in peace, patience, silence, humility and serenity. Perhaps, all of this
plays in together through positive discourses.
What is the cost of this venture? How hard is it?
What are the outcomes.
Well my gentle readers, the end outcome is to bind with the amorphic side
of nature and beauty and be yourself, often
~~~ Rev. Dr. Joel Lamoure March 2013